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Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls

by eharmony

If you have read through this article and you can see what I’m saying is true and you really want to learn how to correctly approach women and open a conversation with them our coaching packages have been designed pickup line free. We do this so no matter where you are you can open a conversation with a beautiful woman with out appearing to be lame or socially inapt.

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Guys believe that if they want to get better approaching girls they need to know good pick up lines to use on girls. Whenever I’m asked what good pick up lines to use on girls I know or use, guys seem to take a step back when I tell them I don’t know any good pick up lines to use on girls. There always seems to be talk about pickup lines some websites are dedicated to giving you the best or what they think is the best pickup lines, so do pick up lines actually work? Well in my opinion no they don’t, in my opinion there is no such thing as good pickup lines to use on girls.

When you forget about learning pickup lines and start spending your time learning attraction and better ways to open a conversation your success with women will increase dramatically. When you use pickup lines to start a conversation it’s not effective, all it will do is show it the girl that you really have no confidence around women.

If you are the kind of guy who thinks pickup lines are the only way to open a conversation I would highly suggest you read this article in its entirety.

It amazes me a lot of guys think women aren’t very smart and they can be fooled very easily, let me give you some advice women are very smart and you’re so called great pickup line has probably being used on her enough times for her to start cringing before you’ve even finished.

If you really want to waste your time and see no dramatic improvements in your success with women spend as much time as you can researching good pick up lines to use on girls. If you want to increase your success with women I would highly suggest spending this amount of time working on yourself.

When you use a pick up line to start a conversation with the woman what she really hears is “Hi I’m other lame guy who has no clue about how to approach women so what I’m going to do is try and impress you with this pickup line I found on the Internet” ask yourself this question how many times have you used a pickup line and then ended up getting a phone number or taking her home that same night I would hallucinate very few if any.

Let’s analyze a pickup line and these so-called good pickup lines to use on girls. Most pickup lines are one maybe two lines so in other words you walk up to a woman you get her attention and then deliver your great line, now 1% of the time this may work but the other 99% of the time you’ll get that look that says stay away from me you weirdo.

Quick question what happens if you deliver your fantastic pickup line and she shuts you down? What do you do next? What about if you meet a rare woman who actually thinks you’re pickup line is funny are you able to hold a conversation with her? See that’s the problem with pickup lines there is really nowhere to go after your have used it let me give you a quick example.

You walk up to all woman and say something lame like was your father a thief because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes. Now she turns to you and says no my dad is a  builder. Not only will she laugh at you her friends will laugh at you and she now owns this interaction in other words you have very quickly become her bitch.

Now unless you are very experienced with women there’s no way you’ll ever come back from this and not only have you lost the chance to talk with the girl you like because all of her friends now think you’re a fool you lost your chance with them as well.

Guys, intelligent woman can pick that you’re trying to pick her up with a pickup line from a mile away and not only will she want you to know that she knows you are trying to use a pickup line, she would actually make things harder for you for using it.

So if there’s no such thing as good pick up lines to use on girls why do so many guys spend so much time trying to find that one elusive pickup line that all were in every situation? We can put this down to three reasons

Reason 1. Guys Want Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls.

Most guys just want instant gratification, what I mean by this is instead of taking the time to learn the skill set to be able to approach, attract and date any woman he may choose they think that if they find a quick pickup line this will be the answer to all their problems. A guy who is great with women would never resort to using pickup lines

Reason 2. Guys Want Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls.

Most guys quite rightly believe that women love guys who can make them laugh, no truer words have ever been spoken. Women love guys who can make them laugh, so a guy reads a pickup line on the Internet finds it funny and thinks that will make her laugh then she’ll like him, unfortunately they didn’t take into consideration the pickup line was probably lame in the first place. So when you deliver it instead of being this funny guy you quickly become the creepy lame guy.

Reason 3. Guys Want Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls.

Some guys actually believe that if they didn’t use pickup lines there is no way they could ever meet women. Instead of taking the time to learn how to open a conversation they used a pickup line basically to save them time and learning. Whether it’s learning to approach women or learning anything in your life you should never be lazy with you learning.

Now you know the three reasons the guys actually want a good pick up lines to use on girls but look at the reasons why they don’t work

Reason 1. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

Pickup lines don’t stir any emotions in a woman. Women are emotional creatures if you can stir emotion up when you are speaking to her she will pay attention to what you’re saying if you can’t create any emotion within her you would just be dismissed as another guy trying to sleep with her.

Reason 2. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

Believe it or not pick up lines don’t actually showcase who you really are unless of course you are boring and lame then they showcase you are perfectly. Being able to start a conversation that is clearly not rehearsed not only shows that you’re a confident guy it also shows you are interesting

Reason 3. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

By the time the girl has left college or high school chances are she has heard just about every pickup line there is. In fact she’s probably heard them more than once when she’s in a bar or nightclub. If she hears a guy repeats one of those old pickup lines she instantly thinks you’re treating her like a child or that you don’t think she’s very intelligent.

Reason 4. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

Rightly or wrongly most beautiful women believe that when a guy tries to start a conversation with a pickup line what he’s really trying to do is hide from the social inadequacies.

Reason 5. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

Most pickup lines are very direct and have a sexual nature about them. Most women don’t appreciate when sex is brought up within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy. Yes women do like sex and talking about sex but not within 30 seconds of meeting you. Even if you are interested in this girl she will think that you’re just trying to get her into bed.

Reason 6. Good Pick Up Lines To Use On Girls Don’t Work.

All pickup lines are closed statements meaning that if it doesn’t go well and chances are in wont there is nowhere to go from here. Being able to start a conversation you can take the conversation where ever you want to go no matter her response.

Now you may disagree with everything I have said and that’s fine my experience in this industry is for the past decade I’ve been working with guys to make sure they are more successful with women. If you disagree with what I’m saying that’s fine it’s your choice if you want to keep using pickup lines on your own head be it.

Let me give you the biggest reason why pickup lines don’t work. When you approach a woman she’s not judging you on what you first say she is judging you on what you say second. You see any guy can learn a lame line but only a guy who is skilled in conversation can carry the conversation.


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